What does dignity mean to you?

You may have noticed that yesterday, October 10, was World Mental Health Day.

Across the globe, people was striking up conversations about mental health. It was all over Twitter, trending across the world, and was being talked about on news channels and radio stations everywhere. Even Wills and Kate got involved, visiting an anti-stigma event in London, talking to young people about their experiences of mental health problems.

It was fantastic seeing so many conversations taking place, the awareness that was being raised, the stigma that was being crushed by the power of conversation. Yet we still have so far to go in terms of equality for those with a mental health illness.

The theme for this year's World Mental Health Day is 'Dignity in Mental Health.' But what does that mean exactly? What does 'having dignity' look like for the individual? How can we make it better for those living with a mental health condition?

The definition of the word 'dignity', according to the Oxford Dictionary, is 'the state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect'. When I read that sentence, I find it hard to digest  that in 2015, there are individuals who wouldn't consider those suffering with mental illness worthy of respect, able to live in a society where they have freedom from being discriminated, abused or stigmatised against. But the reality is very different, and you don't have to search hard to find someone who with a diagnosed mental health illness has been treated without respect. 

From a personal point of view, I have been socially excluded because of my mental health problems. I have been treated differently from others, being made to feel I won't be able to 'handle' certain situations or that I won't be able to 'cope' with something. I have had difficult accessing health care when I have desperately needed it, with the result being a worsening of my symptoms. This of course has knocked my confidence, lowered my self-esteem and made it harder for me to be able to talk about my illness. 

What about from a wider point of view? The stigma associated with mental health means those suffering are talking less. Individuals are becoming scared to open up to their friends, family, employers or universities through fear of being treated differently and being deprived of a sustainable quality of life. The WHO even reports that some individuals with mental health problems are being subject to abuse and being deprived of making life decisions. 

The result? People with mental health illnesses are finding it more difficult to access work and education opportunities. Even the Work Capability Assessment has been recognised by the courts as being 'unfair' to those with mental health problems, forcing people who are unwell to have to go into work when they are unable to. With poor health care provision as well, those with mental health problems are even more likely to die prematurely. It can no longer continue to go on like this.

To me, dignity means being fully accepted into society, being given the same opportunities as every other individual in able to have a good quality of life. This, to me, doesn't seem like a lot to ask for in this day and age. I think I have been fairly lucky in comparison to some, but even in hospital I had moments where I believe I wasn't being treated in a dignified manner. 

As individuals, we can change this though. It all starts with open and honest conversations, where people do not judge one another, where the language used does not stigmatise or discriminate against people with mental health problems. This isn't a hard task for us to do, we just need to step up and do it! It's about taking a moment and thinking about what to say to someone who has disclosed to you they have a mental health problem. It's about sending a text message or offering a cuppa to someone who is struggling. It's about not excluding someone through fear that they may not be able to 'handle' it and instead, supporting them. 

Imagine the uproar there would be if the news reported an individual with another type of illness or disability being treated without their dignity in mind. It would make local, maybe even national news. It would be all over social media. But why not with mental health? Why aren't we shouting from the rooftops that things have to change? People are dying, for crying out loud. We all, as individuals, have the capacity to make a difference, even if it's a small one. It's about having an indiscriminate mind set, a listening ear and not judging someone when you're not living their life and walking in their shoes. 

Don't forget the 1 in 4 statistic. That's 1 in 4 of us who will have a mental health problem at any one time. Think of the number of friends and family you have. How many of them will be affected? Would you know what to say to someone you love with a mental illness? If you're looking for a sign to start talking about mental health, then this is it. 

I urge you, this World Mental Health Day, to do something that will help change the way the world sees mental health and it's associated illnesses. It doesn't have to be much - visit a website such as Mind, Time To Change or the Mental Health Foundation and read about common mental health problems and their symptoms. Perhaps you have a friend you know is struggling, and you could send them a text or invite them round for a cuppa. There's the option as well of sharing your own experiences and story with others to offer hope and to help others who are struggling to feel less alone.

What does dignity mean to you?

Going back to basics.

This summer has been a bit of a blur with everything that's happened and I've found myself taking some respite in the wonderful Scottish Highlands with my mum and step dad. It's beautiful, I must admit, and whilst at first I felt defensive and reluctant to settle into staying here for a while, I've started to fall in love with the little town where I am.

This blog post is all about the little things and going back to the basics - I've realised that my life is a combination of just too much going on in one go and still feeling I'm never doing enough. In today's world, nothing is good enough and we always feel we should be doing more than what we already are.

I recently reeled off all the things I was doing/wanted/needed to do to someone close and their response took me by surprise - 'well, how's that actually working for you right now?' And it was then I realised it wasn't working. Why do we strive to do more and more? Why do we never take the time to just... enjoy? Why can't we look ourselves in the mirror and give ourselves a pat on the back for what we've accomplished rather than hating ourselves for all that we haven't done?

Don't get me wrong - this is easier said than done, and despite taking some 'time out' I'm still struggling with the concept of stepping back and being mindful of what I am doing in the present moment. I toy frequently with the age ol' 'well I should be doing this ...' but I'm starting to see a different side, a different viewpoint. I must admit, it's a very wonderful viewpoint too. Here's a little snippet of the things I've been doing to try and go back to the basics.

Scotland is beautiful! I spent some time with my wonderful man and we explored all around Loch Ness, Drumnadrochit and Invermoriston. We found a gorgeous little stony bridge that needed a lot of tactile moving to walk on safely and a family of highland cows. The sun has been shining most days, with a wonderful 22 degrees some times. I even got my flip flops on at one point. The picture on the far right surprises me still when I look at it, as I seem to look healthier and more 'with it' shall we say. It's a nice feeling.

Walking was always lovely back home, especially with our dogs, but finding somewhere new was a beautiful experience. I felt calm being by the water and when you breathed in the air, it almost felt different - cold, clean, fresh. My other half got me to stand by the waterfall and shut my eyes for a moment to really take it in, and just taking that moment to be present in the moment felt so soothing to my very busy mind.

If you're feeling under the weather and can manage some time out, go explore. I enjoyed having my man with me, but if you like to wander alone, go explore some place new perhaps. Inhale the smells, take the time to notice the details around you. It's extremely rejuvenating and is a fantastic way to ground yourself.

One afternoon I even put aside to write letters. I can't even remember the last time I would have done this. I've spent so much time throwing myself into doing everything at once that I barely find time to send a text message some days, which is terrible. So this was so special. It was amazing to sit with the sun on my face, feeling the grass in between my toes and writing some special cards to my loved ones. It not only gave me the chance to be mindful, but it allowed me to recognise how fortunate I am to have such beautiful people in my life. I'm so grateful for how so many people stood by me when I was in hospital and since I have left and whilst I might be far from some people right now in distance, my heart is with them.

I really do recommend you blocking out an afternoon to do this. Writing letters to loved ones allows you to recognise the good you are surrounded by and of course, receiving a letter is a wonderful feeling. It's a good way as well to let people know that you're still around even if you've been a bit of a hermit recently! I've found that I haven't always wanted to talk and just needed some quiet time, so this is a good way of staying in touch without being stuck in front of a screen of some sort. 

This one might not be suited to everyone's way of going back to basics, but for me, it was really important. I can't remember the last time I had eaten a decent meal when I came to Scotland. My depression leaves me either not hungry or not having the energy to cook. I could go a few days before I realised I'd not eaten a vegetable or drunk water, having spent most of my days surviving off of coffee and snacks. Admittedly, this photo shows only one decent meal but the point is still valid! I'm very lucky that my mum has kindly made me a meal almost every night which then helps with my energy levels. It's also good considering the tablets I'm on too, so I've been tucking in happily. Yes the cakes might be naughty, but who cares? It's representative of spending time with very special people and watching the world go by without having to be a part of it. 

If you're struggling with depression and finding the energy to cook or prepare meals, don't be afraid to ask for help. Friends may be able to make some frozen meals you can quickly pop in the microwave and these days, the growing number of healthier ready meals in the supermarket mean you can have a stock pile to avoid you having to worry too much about going to lots of effort. That way, you know you're managing to have three meals a day which is important to keep those energy levels up, plus it can help with sleep too. If I'm too hungry, I lay in bed, shattered but with the shakes from low blood sugars - not nice!

My last bit of advice is sleep. Now I'm going to be honest - I'm not one to be able to provide much advice on this one, but being here in Scotland does mean I've been able to take advantage of slightly later mornings which helps particularly if I've had to take some additional meds. My sleep is often broken (I'm a bit chatty in my sleep...) but I make sure I take a nap if I'm desperately tired and take rest breaks in the day. Make sure you do the same, but try and keep in a routine if you can. Don't feel bad about a lay in at the weekend or having a lazy Sunday, it's all part of looking after yourself.

So there we go - going back to basics. What do you do to look after yourself which is simple, straight forward and based on being kind to yourself?

It's easier said than done to put a lot of these things in to practice, so I have discovered this past fortnight. But what I have found is when I give into them and embrace the simplicity of being kind to oneself, it has been extremely beneficial. I'm not as tense and I find relaxing just that little bit easier. It takes time and practice, but be kind and love yourself.